Codependency symptoms are varied and impactful. They can include being a people pleaser and lacking assertiveness, leading to an inability to say no or going out of your way to accommodate others. Moreover, being indirect or untruthful about your feelings may stem from fear of upsetting someone else by expressing your true thoughts or feelings. Avoiding or denying feelings may be illustrated by difficulties with intimacy, reluctance to get close to someone, or inability to trust another. Low self-esteem is another symptom, leading to feelings of inadequacy or being unlovable, often resulting in controlling or perfectionist behaviors. Over-controlling behaviors may manifest as rigid and limiting patterns in one's own behaviors, such as perfectionism or hyper-cleanliness, or attempts to control the behavior of those around them.